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Better You, Better Friends

A Whole New Approach to Friendship

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Offers a unique approach to becoming a better friend to FIND better friendships

We know that our friendships increase our happiness, our health, and our longevity, yet people in the U.S. have fewer close confidantes today than we did three decades ago. Even though there's a huge amount of information in the media discussing these relationships, and our social media feeds run 24/7, most of us haven't come up with a constructive approach to friendship. But learning to BE a better friend is the first step to acquiring and cultivating better, more rewarding friendships.

At her own birthday celebration, Glenda Shaw found herself questioning the friends and the friendships there to help her. It dawned on her that she did not feel truly connected to most of them. Something felt terribly wrong. She realized that what she shared with her birthday guests was proximity: they worked together, they lived close to each other, they went to the same networking events and movies. There were, however, other friends with whom she shared more fundamental qualities: the disposition of being encouraging to people, an attitude of looking for purpose in life, a spirit of adventure. Those were the friendships that meant something, the ones that felt truly deep and real.

Friendship is voluntary; it's not legally binding; and it usually has no economic consequences. Yet, friendship, true friendship, is important and comes with challenges the can make or break a relationship. Each chapter of Better You, Better Friends: A Whole New Approach to Friendship explores and addresses a particular kind of challenge—envy, money, honesty—and discusses ways to overcome them or to know when to bow out of a relationship that brings more stress than happiness. Through expert input and personal stories, including her own, Shaw offers a new level of understanding of what makes a good friendship and a good friend.

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    • Publisher's Weekly

      July 26, 2021
      In this uneven debut, TV producer Shaw mines her personal history to offer a simple guide on how readers can better navigate finding friends and maintaining friendships. She organizes friendships into categories—essentials, collaborators, associates, mentors/mentees—and addresses how to manage expectations and boundaries within each. Unwanted feelings that can arise in a friendship, such as jealousy and envy (“primitive survival mechanisms that are often no longer relevant to our physical well-being”), are explored, and to help deepen and maintain existing friendships, Shaw advises paying attention and asking follow-up questions. The easy-to-follow guidance will be of particular use to those who are unhappy within their friendships but can’t quite figure out why. Though there are references to some scholarly works, the author’s personal dramas are the foundation for the bulk of the advice, and many tedious anecdotes slow things down. Readers looking to improve friendships would be better served by Jenn Bane and Trin Garritano’s Friendshipping.

    • Booklist

      August 1, 2021
      There are all kinds of friends: childhood buddies, workout pals, office mates, and social media followers. But what makes an authentic friend? And how do you hold on to a true friend? Shaw sifts through studies and personal experiences to find the answers. She sorts friends into four categories: essential, collaborators, associates, and mentors/mentees, and offers defining characteristics for each. She warns about the things that put stress on friendships, including envy, money, competition, politics, and such life transitions as divorce, illness, and unemployment. There will always be misunderstandings and hurt feelings among friends, and Shaw goes through some common complaints. But she also suggests trying to see things from the friend's perspective and outlines practical steps to address and resolve issues and set boundaries before friendships are destroyed or take over our lives. Perhaps the greatest insights Shaw offers are suggestions on how to find new friends by following your interests and how to strengthen friendships by being the kind of friend you wish you could have. In this time of COVID-19 and unrest, we need all the friends we can get.

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    • Library Journal

      December 1, 2021

      To TV talk-show producer Shaw, the role of friendship isn't terribly appreciated although friends are a vital part of life. To that end she writes to help readers understand these bonds and become a better friend. She describes the different levels of friends (e.g., acquaintances, associates) and discusses how to navigate through issues such as jealousy, feelings of rejection, money imbalances, and conflicts in general. In the final chapter Shaw suggests techniques for finding and making new friends who help explore and celebrate different parts of one's personality. VERDICT Few readers will identify with Shaw's high-powered lifestyle of international travel and boutique hotels, but her advice on handling conflicts is sound. Other books on the subject such as The Fabric of Friendship and The Art of Friendship might be more helpful to general readers.

      Copyright 2021 Library Journal, LLC Used with permission.

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